We know the effects Covid had on global health, education, hospitals and the economy. We watched daily as millions died from this catastrophic disease. We watched businesses permanently close their doors. Go Fund Me campaigns sprouted as families faced losing their homes. What we didn’t talk as frequently about was the impact on couples and marriages.
As the stress of the outside world mounted, often the home became more tense. There was no break or escape from our mates. Compound that with previously unaddressed issues within a relationship, and many reached their breaking point. As a result, divorce rates soared worldwide during the pandemic.
Then things slowly began to open and we all adjusted to a new (masked) normal. We thought we were in the clear until the Delta variant hit. Now many countries are imposing new restrictions and going back into lockdown. Is your relationship ready?
Keep in mind not every relationship fell apart. On the contrary thousands of couples reported feeling closer and more committed to one another. Here are some tips to ensure you come out stronger on the other end of the pandemic.
Thousands of couples reported feeling closer & more committed to one another after the lockdown
NATASHA’S TOP TIPS FOR COUPLES DURING COVID
RESPECT EACH OTHER’S SPACE
It’s difficult to be in one space with one human all the time. Find a way to give each other space. Maybe you eat meals together but work in different areas of the home. Or you spend the days apart and come together in the evenings. Whether it’s going in the backyard, another room, or in the corner with earphones, time alone is essential.
PICK UP A HOBBY
Let’s be real. These are unusually stressful times. It is far too easy to lash out at your spouse. Instead, find a healthy outlet. Whether it’s painting, writing, remodeling, or reading a good book- taking time to do things you enjoy will benefit you and your spouse.
Circumstances are difficult for both of you. Emotions are running high. Remember that your partner is struggling also. Give the same compassion you would like to receive. Don’t take every bad mood personally, with love and patience you will get through this together.
PLAN A WEEKLY DATE NIGHT
Have fun and be creative! You can cook a meal together, have a picnic in the backyard, or take a walk around the neighborhood- find a way to have fun together. Extra points if you each take turns planning for the other person.
Now more than ever communication is important. You may have different views, opinions and feelings but hear each other out. You are living with your best friend and everyone wants to be heard, seen and respected.
Remember why you fell in love and that this too shall pass
Natasha Ickes-Saman is a best-selling author, certified life coach, and owner of Shear Passion Salon. She has written articles for the Los Angeles Tribune, Hudson Weekly, and more. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband, three children, and her cat. In her spare time, she loves Reiki, Tarot, and hiking. You can connect with her through IG @natasha.ickes.saman or her website natasha-ickes-saman.com.